This thing happened with me everyday. And I was so pissed off from this situation, so I decided to overcome this shyness. Because I also wanted to make new friends and a girlfriend like any other boy.
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That's why today I am going to share the steps and techniques which I used to overcome my shyness. Hope these steps would help you. But let me tell you one thing my friend, if you want to overcome shyness you have to step out from your home and execute these steps.
Because these steps will never work for you if you are just reading these for fun. Because it's easy to read rather than execute.
"If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy" -- Dale Carnegie.
"When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman power to achieve" --Napoleon Hill
If you want to achieve something in life, the starting point is Desire. Same thing with your case, if you want to overcome your shyness then you have to develop a burning desire inside you for it.
Because the real fight is in your brain. If you put yourself in an uncomfortable situation, your brain will say you to leave the situation. And guess what you are not going to grow unless and until you develop a strong desire to change.
After this your brain will help you to overcome your shyness instead of just leaving the situation. That's why it is the first step in every situation.
2. Step out of your comfort zone
"You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone, change begins at the end of your comfort zone" -- Roy T. Bennett
But you won't grow if you are sitting in your comfort zone. You have to push your limits and trust me guys it's not easy. It is very very difficult for you if you haven't done anything like that.
Probably your heart rate will start going up and up, your brain will suggest you to leave that situation. Whenever someone made fun of me, I felt bad, but I could not do anything. And I just could not do anything because of this shyness, cause it hold you back to push your limits.
So I started facing my fear. It really feels bad when someone make fun of you. But what I noticed is that after 4 or 5 times, my heartbeat started remaining constant. And this thing is now normal for me.
After that I started trying to be more friendly with others, first started trying to approach (usually I did not do this), and after some time this thing became normal for me too.
So you should also start with baby steps and end up with giant steps. You will feel super confident after doing this.
3. Rejection challenge
"Most fears of the rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don`t based your self-esteem on their opinions" -- Harvey Mackay.
One of my biggest fear is rejection. So I started searching it on internet. After some articles I found this "Rejection Challenge"
It is found by a person called "Jia Jiang". What he did was that he picked up a 100-day rejection challenge and literally started recording it. You can watch it on YouTube.
You can also take this challenge to overcome your fears. If you don't have rejection fear, try this to overcome your own fear. You can overcome your fear by intentionally putting yourself in uncomfortable situation.
4. Meet New People
"Wherever we travel to, the wonderful people we meet became our family" -- Lailah Gifty Akita
My image was very bad in front of my friends because they knew that I was very shy. And I didn't want to prove myself right because I just couldn't argue with anyone. If someone borrowed money from me then he would never have returned me.And I could not just ask for money back because I was very shy.
So you can imagine how much shy I used to be in my past days. But in my vacation I decided to go to spoken english classes and dance classes. I did it because I knew that I would find new people and I would start from beginning.
And I did the same, I introduced myself in a very good way, try to be polite with everyone, made good eye contact(even I felt shy) and try to be friendly as I could.
This thing helped me to learn spoken english, dance and knowledge about how to make friends.
5. Find Your Passion
"The only way to do great work is to love what you do" -- Steve Jobs.
Remember that at the end of the day 99.99% people don't give a f#ck about your existence unless and until you give value to them. So try to find your passion.
After finding your passion you can monetize your passion to earn a good amount of money. If you don't know that what is your passion right now, try to explore new things.
There is a lot of information regarding this topic on internet and books. So you can check this by your own. After finding success in your field you will see that the same person who use to insult you, starting respecting you. So start finding your passion from now.
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