It happens with everyone; often, we feel that our life is not in our control. Time is passing at breakneck speed, and we can’t control what’s happening in our life.
At a moment like this, we can never be productive, creative, and enthusiastic towards our goals. I know how it feels because I was a victim of it too. Whenever I sat down to do my work, things start coming at my way to stop me. Like a friend called me, the internet stop working, my laptop crashed, etc.
But gradually, as I aged, I started understanding that these things happen with everyone. Everyone got frustrated; it’s not like you feel that someone is sitting there to ruin your day( atleast I use to the thought that way).
If you want to take control of your life, then here are some tips:
1. Learn To Say No.
One of the essential skill that everyone should learn these days is saying no when necessary. Most of the time, we end up saying yes to something that we don’t want to do because we don’t want to ruin the excellent boy image.
The reality is that saying no doesn’t make you look nasty or rude. Our mind was wired in a way that we think saying no is wrong. We all are mature, and we know that what’s wrong and right for us.
When you say yes to someone, it means that you have no value of yourself in your mind. Understand that time is a real asset and save it whenever you can. I know it can feel not useful in the starting, but it will save so much time of yours.
2. Do Something That Scares You At Least Once A Week.
Often we end up changing our way from where we want to just because we fear that thing. Fear can ruin your life. I’ve personally lost almost two years of my experience by worrying. But when I started facing them, the real growth happened. Friction is required if you want to grow.
In her book, “when things fall apart,” Pema Chödrön shares the story of a young warrior who asks fear how to defeat him; the fear tells:
“My weapons are that I talk fast, and I get very close to your face. Then you get completely unnurved, and you do whatever I say. If you don’t do what I tell you, I have no power. You can listen to me, and you can have respect for me. I can even convince you. But if you don’t do what I say, I have no power.”
Being comfortable at every step is not a great choice. You can not live life if it’s full; you will lose countless opportunities because of your fears.
Former Navy Seal and the author of Can’t Hurt Me, David Goggins says that everyone should do an uncomfortable task a day to keep growing in your life. There’s nothing inside your comfort zone. You must break that and start flying.
3. Change your mindset.
Often we think that our life isn’t great. Only you are facing hardships and all. But you need to understand that the feeling you are getting is the same as every person on this earth. We all feel bad, but it doesn’t mean that your life isn’t fair.
Stephen Hawking, one of the greatest physicists ever, said that we live on a minor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand millions galaxies. How’s that for a shift in perspective? Given this information, are your trouble that big? Are the problems you have experienced as serious as you have made them out to be?
Be grateful for your life. Try looking down from you, the people who don’t have the same opportunities as you wish for an experience like you. Be an optimist and try to look good in everything. Most of your problems would vanish after this.